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In a healthy state of mind: experts discuss the link between mental health and overall well-being

By: Victoria Bourque +

On: November 12, 2015

People with mental-health issues are no longer relegated to silent suffering. We talk to the experts in the field, who link what goes on in our heads to our overall well-being.

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My name is Victoria Bourque and having worked as a dentist for over 20 years, treating many anxious and phobic patients, I felt inspired to use my knowledge and skills to empower as many people as possible to live happily and confidently. I completed my Thrive Consultant® training under the supervision of Rob Kelly and operate under a strict code of ethics as a licensed Thrive Consultant.

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⭐️ Every emotion you feel is created fresh in the present moment -> Your past experiences aren’t making you feel anything, your current thoughts and beliefs about your past experiences are

⭐️ Your beliefs act like filters -> They determine which memories feel important and how you interpret them 👓

⭐️ You can change these filters -> Because beliefs are just thoughts you keep thinking, you can create different, more helpful ones

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You’re spending a lovely day with friends or fam

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It all boils down to our coping skills and our mindset towards work and responsibilities. When you’re confident in your ability to handle challenges, you don’t spiral into pre-week anxiety.

So, how do we build these coping skills?

It starts with your inner voice - that internal dialogue you have with yourself:

Imagine you’re thinking: “How will I survive this week? I’m dropping the ball on this project. The kids have a ton of appointments, and I’m drowning here. Why is this so hard? What’s wrong with me?”

No wonder your Sunday feels heavy! You’re not only worrying about the week but also questioning your worth. 😖

Try this instead: “Okay, crazy week ahead, but I’ve tackled busy weeks before. I’ll focus on what I can control, give my best to these projects and appointments, and things will work out. Even if they don’t, I can handle it. I’m doing well and making progress. Today, I choose to enjoy my Sunday.”💫

That’s how you take back control! 💪

That’s putting you back in the driver’s seat!

Let’s crush this upcoming week together!

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But what if you could do more than just survive the holidays?

What if you could build such strong psychological foundations that you actually look forward to the season - regardless of your circumstances?

The truth is, you have WAY more power than you think. 💫

Let’s dive in!

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By building solid mental health foundations NOW, you’ll feel:

✨ Calm and in control regardless of the situation

✨ Confident in setting healthy boundaries

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✨ Able to bounce back from unexpected challenges

The Thrive Programme teaches you the skills and self-awareness to get control of your emotions and create the holiday experience you want - regardless of external circumstances.

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That Sunday night loop of thoughts in your head:

That Sunday night loop of thoughts in your head:

“I’m not good enough”

“They’re going to find out”

“Everyone else is so much better”

“I need to work twice as hard to prove myself”

Imposter syndrome isn’t something that happens TO you - it’s something you’re creating (very unintentionally!) through your thoughts and beliefs about yourself.

The truth is when you have strong psychological foundations, you don’t create impostor syndrome. Why? Because you approach situations from a completely different mindset 💫

What strong foundations look like:

⭐️ You know perfection isn’t required

⭐️ You understand your worth isn’t tied to your performance

⭐️ You trust in your ability to handle challenges

⭐️ You speak to yourself with compassion, not criticism

⭐️ You view mistakes as learning opportunities, not evidence of fraud

Your Sunday nights don’t have to be filled with dread. Your workweek doesn’t have to feel like you’re waiting to be “found out.” 🧡

Remember: These feelings aren’t facts - they’re thought patterns you can change. And I’m here to show you how! 💫

Follow me to learn how to build psychological foundations that will help you:

➡️ Trust your capabilities

➡️ Navigate challenges with confidence

➡️ Stop comparing yourself to others

➡️ Enjoy your achievements

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The thing is, we spend a lot of time identifying ourselves by what we think should define us:

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➡️ Our job/relationship status

➡️ Our general success in life

➡️ Our past experiences

When we do this, we unintentionally end up not being true to ourselves - people pleasing, saying yes when we want to say no, taking on more than we can handle, and completely forgetting to consider what’s best for us.

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Maybe right now you:

➡️ Feel like you’re being judged all the time

➡️ Overthink everything you say and do

➡️ Make excuses to avoid social situations

➡️ Watch others socialising with ease while you struggle

Here’s something powerful you need to know - social anxiety isn’t actually about what others think of you, it’s a reflection of what YOU think about you. The judgments you fear from others are actually coming from your own thoughts about yourself. 🧠

The even better news is that this is something you can change and I can show you how! 💫

The Thrive Programme isn’t therapy - you’re in the driver’s seat learning exactly how your mind works and how to feel confident in any social situation. 💪

You don’t have to live in fear of judgment anymore 🫶

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Let’s dive in but first, follow me for more daily tips like this 👊

Here’s what’s happening...

Your emotions go UP when:

➡️ You get complimented on your work

➡️ People want to see you

➡️ You get likes and engagement on social media

But just as easily they come crashing DOWN when:

➡️ Someone doesn’t answer right away

➡️ Someone criticizes something you’ve done

➡️ Someone disagrees with you

And you stay feeling pretty down until you get some kind of external proof that you’re worthy again. And the cycle keeps going.

Here’s the thing - this doesn’t mean that you’re stuck feeling this way forever. It just means that over time, you’ve learned to measure your worth based on what’s happening AROUND you rather than what’s happening WITHIN you. ⭐️

The good news? People with high self-esteem aren’t stronger or less sensitive than you - they just measure their worth differently. They base it on things they can actually control, like:

⭐️ Who they are as a person

⭐️ The effort they put in daily

⭐️ How they treat themselves

And the best part? It only takes a few weeks to build solid self-esteem - and that’s exactly what I teach 🧡

Don’t forget to follow me to learn more about building strong mental health.

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When you can’t enjoy any moment because your min

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Maybe you always expect things to go wrong, feel like you can’t fully enjoy the moment, think preparing for the worst protects you, or can’t remember how to just be present.

Let’s dive in but first follow me for more tips and insights on mental health!

The truth is the constant preparing and worrying isn’t your fault. Nobody ever taught us that this kind of over-preparing actually comes from not believing we can cope with things if they go wrong.

When you truly believe you can handle whatever comes your way, you don’t need to prepare for every possible problem anymore.

The amazing news is - you can build this belief in yourself! It’s not something you’re born with or stuck without.

This is exactly what I teach with the Thrive Programme:

✨ Understanding how your mind works

✨ Building powerful beliefs and coping skills

This isn’t therapy - you’re in the driver’s seat learning exactly how to build real confidence in your ability to handle anything life throws at you.

You don’t have to live on high alert anymore 🫶

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Save this post for when you need a little reminder that you have all the power within you to thrive!

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One moment you feel on top of the world, everythin

One moment you feel on top of the world, everything is looking good and looking up... and the next, you feel miserable.

It just keeps changing day to day, and it can be pretty exhausting. 😮‍💨

We all know someone who doesn’t seem to have that problem - they remain pretty much at the same level of contentment with themselves. Well, the truth is, it’s not because they were born that way, or that you’re different... they just base their self-esteem differently than you do.

Let’s dive in!

So first, let’s get something out of the way - self-esteem is not stuck. It’s not something you have or don’t have... it’s something you actively create (or don’t create) every day.

If you find yourself fluctuating between feeling good or bad, you’re most likely basing your self-esteem on external factors:

➡️ How well you do at your job

➡️ What people think of you

➡️ Your status

➡️ Your physical appearance

➡️ Your relationships

...and so much more, but you get the idea.

If one of these things goes wrong (for example, if you mess up a bit at work), you feel terrible.

People with stable self-esteem don’t see these fluctuations because they don’t base how they feel on external factors - they focus on internal ones:

⭐️ What they like about themselves

⭐️ The effort they put in

⭐️ The kind of person they work on being

⭐️ Understanding what they can and can’t control

That’s why whatever happens outside of that doesn’t really affect their self esteem. ✨

Your turn to build the self-esteem you deserve! 🧡

#mentalhealth #selfesteem #personalgrowth #selfworth

Just like a building needs deep foundations to sta

Just like a building needs deep foundations to stand tall, your mental health needs strong psychological foundations. 💫

A lot of the time, we feel like our mind is a big mystery we don’t have much control over. Some people seem lucky to have great mental health, while others experience more issues with it. 🤔

If you are suffering from a mental health issue, if you have symptoms that are making your life miserable, know that you can learn how to improve your mental health. 💪

Our emotions are largely created by what we think in the moment. And how we think is based on our beliefs. 🧠

Once you learn how to update those beliefs to ones that are helpful and empowering, you’ll see yourself soar. ✨

You CAN take control! 🫶

The Thrive Programme isn’t therapy - you are totally in the driver’s seat as you work through learning a skillset to understand your own mind. You’ll learn everything you need to know to be the best version of yourself! 💛

#mentalhealth #personalgrowth #mentalstrength #wellnesstips

Sometimes a goal, a challenge, or something you ne

Sometimes a goal, a challenge, or something you need to overcome just feels impossible. 🏔️

But here’s the thing - it’s rarely about whether you CAN do it. It’s about what you’re telling yourself about it. When you keep thinking “this is impossible,” that’s all you’ll see. You won’t even notice that first small step you could take! 💭

Here’s what you need to know (and follow me for more tips like this!) ✨

Our friend just showed us 4 simple things that helped him reach his goal:

➡️ He got perspective - yes, the goal looked huge! But he broke it down and found he could absolutely handle one step at a time. That’s all he focused on. 🎯

➡️ He took his time - no rushing, no pressure. He went at his own pace. And guess what? He still made it! 🌱

➡️ He became his own best friend - instead of putting pressure on himself, he was encouraging and supportive. “Maybe I CAN do this,” “One step at a time” 🫂

➡️ He celebrated his win - that moment at the top wasn’t just celebration. It became proof for next time something feels scary: “I can do hard things!” 🌟

The truth is, you CAN do hard things too. You just need your mind working with you instead of against you. 💫

I can help you with that. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, fears, or working towards the life you want - I teach the skills that make ANY goal feel possible. 🎯 The best part? It’s a training programme where YOU’RE in the driver’s seat of your own mental health, learning and applying the tools yourself. 💪

Save this post for those days when things feel too big to handle! ⭐️

Don’t forget to follow me for more tips on thriving in life 🫶

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You have this great idea. Maybe you want to go bac

You have this great idea. Maybe you want to go back to school, switch careers, or move somewhere new. But when it comes to actually taking those steps... you freeze. 🥶

Here’s the thing - there could be lots of reasons why, but the biggest one is always what’s going on in your mind.

You know those people who just seem to go for it? The ones who don’t get overwhelmed with stress and anxiety no matter how things turn out?

There are 2 main reasons for that:

1. They don’t get in their own way

2. They know they can handle whatever challenges come up

Getting in your own way looks like:

🚨 “I can’t do this”

🚨 “It’s not good enough”

🚨 “What if I fail?”

🚨 “What’s the point?”

🚨 “What if it doesn’t work out?”

🚨 “What if that’s not the right move?”

So if you have a goal but feel stuck, start by looking at what’s happening in your mind 🧠

Don’t forget to follow me to learn about understanding your mind and how to use it to your advantage 🧡

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We spend so much time trying to fix ourselves, oft

We spend so much time trying to fix ourselves, often without even realizing it. It can take over our lives instead of actually living them.

The frustrating part? It doesn’t always work - you do all the things, and still feel off.

Can you relate? Let’s talk about it.

You can spend years working on yourself, but if the beliefs driving you aren’t helpful, you won’t feel better. 🤔

It’s like this: you can study hard, get that dream career, collect all the achievements, and still feel completely stuck because you’re not seeing your own worth. You’re still playing that old tape in your head that says you’re not good enough.

The real key? Understanding yourself and how you tick. Once you can spot which beliefs are holding you back, switching them becomes so much easier. Everything else follows naturally. ✨

The Thrive Programme isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you understand:

➡️ How your mind works 🧠

➡️ Why you think and feel the way you do 💭

➡️ How to take control of your thoughts and beliefs ⭐️

When you understand yourself, you can:

➡️ Build genuine self-esteem 💫

➡️ Develop a powerful mindset for life’s challenges 💪

➡️ Create the life you truly want ✨

You are not a problem that needs solving - you just have some unhelpful stories playing in your mind. And those can change. 🌱

Follow me to learn more 🧡

#mentalhealth #growth #mindsetshift

We live in a world where anxiety is often presente

We live in a world where anxiety is often presented as something vastly out of our control - something we can only manage through external support.

The truth is: you have SO much natural ability within you right now to make a world of difference. 🫶

Let’s explore 3 powerful tips, but first follow me for more insights on how to take full control of your mental health 🧠

⭐️ Shift Your Perspective

The number one reason anxiety takes hold is that we lose perspective on our situation. Many challenges are more manageable than our minds make them out to be. We build them so big with our thoughts that they become terrifying mountains.

To get more perspective? Start asking questions, just like you would when solving any other problem:

Is it really as overwhelming as it feels?

If things don’t go perfectly, will it truly be the end of the world?

What would you say to a friend facing this same situation?

⭐️ Practice being kind to yourself

This brings us to something crucial: being kind to yourself.

Here’s the golden rule - you can work on overcoming fears, learning new skills, or being the best version of yourself, but if you’re putting yourself down in the background, nothing will stick.

Your self-esteem needs nurturing to thrive. Make being gentle with yourself a daily practice. It might feel strange at first, but keep at it until it becomes your natural response.

⭐️ Self-Praise!

Being kind is essential, but actively praising yourself? That’s where the magic happens. When you put effort into something - whether it seems normal, big or small - celebrate it!

Notice your progress, acknowledge your effort. Each moment of recognition strengthens your self-esteem and motivates you to keep growing.

Remember, anxiety only grows when we feel powerless, and that power has always been within you. 🧡

Practice these DAILY and watch how you develop both the ability to prevent anxiety from taking hold and the skills to calm yourself when it does arise.🫶

You’ve got this! Anxiety doesn’t define you or control you - YOU are in charge! 💪

Remember to follow me for more 🧡

#mentalhealth #innerstrength #selfempowerment #mentalhealthjourney

But seriously though... why can’t they just come

But seriously though... why can’t they just come to my house? 😩

Going to someone’s house when you have emetophobia can be terrifying and the panic that sets in as soon as someone invites you over can be completely overwhelming. 😔

You start to have thoughts like...

👉Can I avoid going?

👉Is it rude to decline?

👉Can I convince them to come to my house or meet somewhere else?

👉I’m already feeling sick at the thought of it, maybe it’s not a good idea…

If this sounds familiar, you might be dealing with emetophobia—a debilitating fear of being sick or seeing others be sick.

It’s more common than you might think...

The good news? You don’t have to live with this fear forever! 🤩 With the right mindset and tools, you can overcome it.💪

Contact me to find out more about the Emetophobia-Free programme.

Nobody is born with low self esteem. It’s someth

Nobody is born with low self esteem. It’s something we create over time by our thinking.

There are a lot of misconceptions that low self esteem comes from our past or from bad things happening to us and that there isn’t much we can do to fix it. That’s very disempowering and simply not true. ❌

Self esteem is about how you treat yourself right NOW. It is your current opinion of yourself. It’s what you think about yourself TODAY.

You might have low self esteem if you:

➡️ Put yourself down a lot 😔

➡️ Always compare yourself to others 👥

➡️ Set unrealistically high goals you can never reach 🏔️

➡️ Try too hard to get others to like you 😮‍💨

When you do these things, you’re essentially sending a message to your brain: I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH

Here’s the good news: since this is an active process you can change it!

Think of self esteem like a battery. Being kind to yourself charges it up. Being hard on yourself drains it. 🔋

Here are some easy ways to start:

⭐️ Write down good things about yourself 📝

⭐️ Be nice to yourself when you mess up - everyone does 🤗

⭐️ Notice the good things you do each day, big and SMALL 🎉

⭐️ Set small goals you can reach, and feel good when you do 🏆

When you do these things, you start to see yourself in a better way. You’ll feel better about who you are. You won’t need others to tell you you’re worth it - you’ll know it yourself. ❤️

For more tips on feeling better about yourself, don’t forget to follow me.

#selfesteem #lowselfesteem #mentalhealth #mindsetshift

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